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Emotional validation is something we all seek and crave far more than we realize. When we are upset, angry, frustrated, disappointed or hurt, our tendency is to want to discuss our feelings with others so we can get it off our chest.

However, getting things off our chest by telling others about our feelings is not always satisfying or cathartic. If the person to whom we vent simply looks at us and shrugs or responds by giving us advice or by telling us what we did wrong, we won’t feel any better and we will probably feel worse after speaking with them.

phycology today
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201106/the-antidote-anger-and-frustration