why i like sunsets again

reds yellows oranges
blues greys all meld together
in one brillant sky

 

building castles in the sand

sand castle building today.

  
 btw, these are two different castles.

and we lets the boyz dig to their heart’s content. jimmy tried to bury sherlock.  

jimmy chills under the wagon after the big dig, bigger than the one in boston.

  

why i like sunsets

Mary and i are at ocean shores, wa. sunset from June 27. 

    
     

 

i’m beginning to not like that woman

 

harken back to my friend’s 40th birthday.. my friend’s mom made some snide uneducated comment about me being on my ipad.

tonight, she pushed the envelope yet again. we went to our friend’s as her daughters had a dance recital today. my friend”s mom is retired enough that she can come over for events like this.

r*e*s*p*e*c*t

i don’t care about what you think about me, but i do care how you treat me.

a friend of mine shared this mantra with me. with the sound of Aretha franklin echoing in my head, i thought about the saying, i realized the i do care how you treat me part represents a statement of respect and/or compassion. secondly, I realized how most people with social anxiety, at least at some level, struggle with respect.

get along littl’ doggie

i am fascinated with the research of kelly mcgonical, that people who use stress as an indicator live longer and I can only assume better lives. heck, who wouldn’t mind if stress had a slightly looser grasp on their life? You can put me in that category.

since i’ve heard about her work, i have been trying to use the stress as an indicator model. my first attempt worked swimmingly and since then, i have met with a more limited success.

soap box

when’s the last time, someone has try to talk you out of a pick-me-up emotion? you know, “oh, you’re happy. what can i do to help?”, your excited? we can’t have that.”, “you’re upbeat. how can I fix that?” but that’s what happens to bring-me-down emotions. something not only seems incongruous, it also seems wrong.

no wonder so many people choose to run from their bring-me-down emotions. actions condition us that they are bad or wrong, that they need to be fixed.

newsflash! bring-me-down emotions don’t need to be fixed any more than pick-me-up emotions.

update-sisterly love

people who have been with me long enough will remember my run-in with my sister.she got upset when i suggested some ways she could help me while countering yet another suggestion for mindfulness. I have nothing against mindfulness, but i offered up other options that I thought would be more helpful and had been working to lift my mood. after brooding over it for a couple of weeks, i ran head-on to the thought of acceptance. almost immediately I got over the butt-headed response she gave.

stress as a friend? yah right!

i saw a ted talk by kelly mcgonical titled  how to make stress your friend via a reblog from my friend shrewed up. the talk centered around stress and how people handle stress. i had some rather easy by remarkable results.

self care-from snowflake to snowball

in talking to a couple different friends recently, I’ve come to this revelation. the revelation is:

the best path out of depression is self-care.